Hopeful parents contact our office regularly, explaining they’d like the opportunity to write a letter of introduction to their selected egg donor, but don’t know how to begin. With this in mind, we’ve provided some introductory letter elements to help draft a treasured, personalized letter.
Share your story. The more detailed information you provide about yourself and your life, the easier it will be for your chosen egg donor candidate to connect with you. Paint a picture of your lives and don’t be afraid to share your fertility journey. You might find that you’ll feel more connected to your egg donor if you do.
Acknowledge your egg donor’s sacrifice. Women who choose to become egg donors make many sacrifices to help hopeful parents build their families. It will mean a lot to your egg donor to know how much you appreciate her willingness to help in your family building journey. If your egg donor has a husband and children, express your appreciation for her willingness to give up time with her family to help you in your journey.
Explain why you selected your egg donor. Egg donors often wonder what it was about their portfolio that stood out amongst others. Explain to your selected donor what it was that stood out with her portfolio, and don’t hesitate to provide specific examples of connections you share with her.
If comfortable, consider sharing photos. If you decide to include photos with your letter of introduction, be sure to choose photos that capture your personality, and include brief captions to provide context with your photos.
Ask for help from friends or family. Your friends and family know you best, and if they know about your donation journey, ask them to read your letter of introduction and provide you feedback.
Ask your egg donor agency for guidance. Our office regularly works with hopeful parents who write a letter of introduction, and if you’re stumped about what to write, we can provide you with suggestions and valuable insight into the information commonly shared in an introductory letter.
Edit. Before submitting your letter of introduction, let it sit for a day or two, re-read it, edit it if needed, and finally, submit your final copy to our office to send along to your egg donor.
Just be yourself! The most important advice as you complete your introductory letter is that you should be yourself and let the letter resonate with who you are.
Have fun writing your letter. While it might seem a bit daunting to compose a letter of introduction that sums up words of thanks, your social background and history into just a few paragraphs, this is an exciting opportunity to express your hope and your gratitude for the ability go begin your donor egg journey. Be sincere, enjoy the writing process, and thank your egg donor for her amazing contribution toward your family building journey.